Not Caring What Other People Think
Confidence & Body Image • 15m
We live in funny, divided times, where the fear of "other" seems to be growing.
You might be noticing judging others for the way they live, judging others when we deep down, actually want what they have, judging yourself for not being a certain way, judging yourself for not being the way you think you ought to be... what a cycle!
I credit my husband for learning to embody the phrase: I don't judge. It took some time, but eventually, it stuck. It now resonates deep within my body and I can't imagine going back. There's a sense of confidence in knowing what it feels like to not even feel the compulsion to judge: things are just as they are, not good, not bad, but forever evolving.
Let me tell you, I used to be an EXPERT at judging myself and judging others: it was a constant comparison game where I never felt good enough and even felt jealous of others and therefore projected judgement onto them because I didn't feel as worthy of them.
And of course, I was paralyzed by the stories I thought they were thinking about me....!
It feels somewhat silly writing this down, but for anyone that falls into this trap of judging, fearing judgement, fearing what others might think of you, or even noticing continual judgement of yourself as you go about your day, this sequence is for you!
Let me know how this one feels in the comments below.
Use as often as you need and one day, you might even notice that you stop judging others entirely and in the process, you stop judging yourself.
What opens up when we stop judging? A place to appreciate and love others for exactly as they are, imperfect, but perhaps doing their absolute best given their current mode of operating.
When we release the need to judge, we can then choose how we'd like to perceive someone or perceive a situation. Most often, it feels much better to think of someone with a sense of love, respect, and compassion. We feel their pain, we understand they are doing their best, we understand that we are doing our best...and my goodness, eventually things start to soften.
When there's no need to judge ourselves or others, what could we then use our precious mental energy to create? How would we be thinking? How would this change the way we interact with others and eventually with ourselves?
Feel free to share below to inspire conversation!
Up Next in Confidence & Body Image
I often get questions on the spectrum of:
"How do I love my body when I am gaining so much weight?"
"How do I accept myself when I am so thin and look so sickly?"
"I've gained so much weight after my 2nd baby and I don't feel good in my clothes, how could I love being so big when I used to be ...
When in Self-Doubt
When in doubt, trust yourself!
When in doubt, learn the subtle art of knowing how to trust yourself when that muscle feels muddy.
If you don't quite know what that feels like and you find yourself second-guessing or doubting your intuition, this sequence is intended to strengthen that inner kno...
Reimagining Weight Gain
Many of you have mentioned the frustration of gaining weight in order to heal.
While it is often necessary to gain weight to reach a point of metabolic health and vitality, I want to honor that feeling out of place in your own body can feel triggering and HIGHLY uncomfortable.
If you are dea...