We all have our moments where after the fact, we wish we did things differently...
Maybe you wish you didn't say something...or maybe you wish you DID say something...
Perhaps you wish you didn't do something...wish you chose to do the other thing instead...
Maybe now you're feeling conflicted about how things turned out, as if in some way you're paying for your not-so-great choice and wishing you could go back and change it.
Perhaps you even went against your gut instinct, only to feel that much more regretful and tormented by feeling like as if you knew better!
What I find helpful when it comes to transforming regret is to first honor the feeling, and then use it as an opportunity to be wiser, more intentional, more true to ourselves the next time a similar opportunity arises (as it will...)
I also remember the wisdom from Maya Angelou, reminding us all:
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.”
Part of releasing regret is forgiving the foolish version of ourselves and using that "whoopsie" as the data point to do better the next time around.
Part of being human requires that we make mistakes: sometimes, over and over again.
Yet in choosing to learn & evolve because of any incongruent feelings, THAT is where we set ourselves free from regret and torturing ourselves with stories of "if only..."
We get the opportunity to use regret as the reason to shift into a place of gratitude for lives continual teachings and to then, with awareness, do better each and every chance we get.